My daughter Amaani teaches me something new everyday.
When she was about six weeks old, I decided to go to a Meetup event for moms. I know some people will think that’s too early to go out with a small baby but I just needed an outlet. And my purpose for going was multifold.
I’m new to the area and wanted to meet other moms in the hopes of making friends and building a support system for me and my child. I also wanted to learn things about taking care of newborns from moms who had been there, done that. And I wanted to get my nails done since the meet-up happened to be at a nail salon. I was craving a break and wanted to do something for myself…just one hour of “me” time.
I didn’t want to expose my baby to the salon so I brought along a sitter and parked them at a Starbucks for just an hour. Of course, things don’t always go as planned.
As I was about to park the car, a big red light surfaced on the car dashboard signaling our car had overheated and must not be driven. I went to the nail salon and real quickly introduced myself to the other moms and then dialed AAA. It got chaotic from there.
I don’t have any recollection of getting my nails done. All I know is I was simultaneously talking to the salon lady, the other moms, AAA and my husband. In the middle of it all, I had to leave to tend to my baby who was crying. There was definitely too much going on.
To make a long story short…I was told we can’t drive the car and I was trying to figure out how I would pick my husband up from work since we were sharing a car. Somehow that red light temporarily went away and I managed to get to my husband’s work when the engine overheated.
We ended up walking two miles home with baby in the stroller. I wasn’t sure whether to laugh or cry at all the milestones I had to cross just to go to one Mom’s Meetup Event. My “break” turned out to be more work than I could have imagined.
But I learned something that day. Every time I looked at my child, I saw that she was relaxed and even sleeping through parts of that ordeal. She was going with the flow literally. She didn’t lose her peace.
I thought to myself, I need to be more like baby. She has faith she’s going to get home somehow. She didn’t get upset. She kept her calm and peace. I want to be like her- able to sleep soundly and stay relaxed even when things don’t go my way. I want to be able to trust the universe that things will turn out ok in the end.
Amaani doesn’t stay mad. She doesn’t hold grudges. She’s quick to forget and quick to smile. She welcomes everyone to play with her and she has a beautiful curiosity for life.
Maybe as we grow older we get wiser in some ways….but in other ways, I think babies have the right idea. That blissful innocence and love for everything and everyone is something too special to lose.