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Mommy and Daddy Date Day… Making it Happen!

We don’t have a nanny or babysitter to watch our toddler. We also don’t have family nearby. And our daughter is at a stage where she knows who mommy and daddy are and who a stranger is so we can’t just leave her with an unfamiliar face. But we were determined to go out on a date.

Amaani is 13 months old and she has been going to bed by 7:30pm and sleeping through the night for several months. That means my husband and I get plenty of time together to watch movies, hang out, dine in but… it’s always at home.

We wanted to get out. Go to the movies. Just the two of us.

Here’s how we made it happen-

My husband took a vacation day from work. Our daughter goes to a daycare that she loves about two times a week. On this day, she was oblivious to the fact that we were dropping her off in the arms of her favorite teacher not to go to work but to have a playdate of our own.

After we dropped Amaani off, we went out for breakfast. We chose a diner that we had never been to before. This instantly made us feel as if we were on vacation out of town. It was so nice not to worry about keeping our daughter from throwing food on the floor. This moment was just about my husband and me. We could look into each other’s eyes without any distractions. It felt so good!

After a leisure breakfast, we went to play some tennis. We hadn’t played in about two years and it felt so good to hit the ball back and forth and make each other run. The score was tied at the end and we left it at that.

Once we had showered and changed we headed out to the movies. Best. Date. Ever. We watched “Inside Out” and “Jurassic World.” Yes, we did two movies back-to-back to make up for all the times we couldn’t go out and had to Netflix or Redbox something. We loved both. “Inside Out” was particularly a lovely surprise with not a single dull moment.

There are so many things I loved about our date. We weren’t rushing through things and my husband was opening doors for me… sometimes we get caught up with putting Amaani in her car seat and are so focused on settling her in that those “extras” don’t get to happen all the time.

After the movies, we grabbed some donuts at Krispy Kreme and because we started missing Amaani around this time, we went to pick her up early.

My husband enjoyed our 8-hour “date day” so much he wondered if he could do it once a month!

We love spending time with our daughter and we take her out nearly everyday- whether it’s a birthday party, wedding, museum, park, amusement park, swimming, etc. We get plenty of family bonding time. And we’re grateful for that. But there were some activities like playing tennis and going to a movie theater that my husband and I missed doing on the date nights we have. Luckily, we found a way to make it happen on a “date day” instead.

You know what they say…where there’s a will, there’s a way! 🙂

Playing Tennis

Playing Tennis

 

 

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